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I couldn’t say anything yesterday, since her siblings hadn’t been notified yet, but my mother passed away unexpectedly yesterday evening. It was quick and relatively painless. Nobody knows yet exactly why it happened, since she appeared to have been in good health – and family history indicated she probably would live another 15-20 years. For the past couple of months, she had been telling people that she wanted to be with my dad again, but that she would wait on the Lord’s timing. My brain can’t say I know her prayer was answered, but my heart chooses to believe that – despite all of the objective evidence I see everywhere that God doesn’t work that way in most cases.
I am most grateful today for parents who loved me – truly loved the unique person I was – and allowed me to be different – and treasured me for that difference.
I am grateful for six children who allowed and allow me to try to emulate my parents’ loving acceptance – even when their unique differences occasionally challenged and challenge my determination to do so.
I am grateful to have been raised with the idea that families are forever, literally. I don’t know why I was and am blessed to be a part of such a wonderfully unique family, with that particular theology, but I thank God for it. My parents were ordinary heroes, and I will treasure my association with them forever.
Subjectively and from a believer’s heart, I am thankful, deeply, that my mother has been allowed to receive her fondest desire – to be with my father again.
God bless you, Mom and Dad. Save a place for all of us.
Ray, I’m so sorry for your loss. My Mother’s passing was the hardest for me. Isn’t it great to have good memories? I’ll be thinking of you & your family this holiday.
My heart goes to you and your family. May you find some peace during this trying time. Sending you and your family prayers and and good wishes this holiday season. So sorry for your loss! Old-Timer wrote:For the past couple of months, she had been telling people that she wanted to be with my dad again, but that she would wait on the Lord’s timing.
My great grandmother said some similar things for the last years of her life. I do believe that people can have a sense that their life mission is fulfilled, a resignation to take that final step into the unknown.
You and your family will be in my prayers!
My grandparents had that bond. When my grandmother died, I was so torn. She was the last link to that older generation. I missed her and all that she represented in my life. And yet .. I was pleased that she had the wish of her heart. She got to be with the one she loved the most, and I was mature enough to recognize that although she loved me, the ties that bound and pulled her to her husband were stronger than the ties that bound her to all the rest of us combined. And I was pleased. It gave me hope to find such a love for myself in this world.
For you, Ray, who are still here, I am sorry for your loss.
So sorry, Ray. I am sure you have mixed feelings about this. Even when there’s an upside for the one who dies, it’s a loss. What a heartfelt post Ray. Thanks for sharing your perspective on it.. Ray, I’m really sorry for your loss. I don’t know what I’d do if my mom or dad passed away. I’ll pray for you and your family to find peace. I’m sorry for your loss. May god be with you and your family at this difficult time. Sorry for your loss Ray. So sorry Ray. Positive thoughts, virtual hugs and a virtual casserole sent your way. We’ll be thinking of you. Old-Timer wrote:My parents were ordinary heroes, and I will treasure my association with them forever.
Thanks for sharing your stories of them with us. I’m sorry, and hope this weekend will be bitter with the sweet for your family.Thank you, everyone. I finished writing the obituary today – an interesting experience. She was a remarkable woman – seriously the most gentle person I have met in my life. I never heard her raise her voice in anger or frustration, and everyone I know says the same thing. She is the only person I know who is mentioned in someone else’s Patriarchal Blessing by name, where the other person is told to listen to her always, since she will never lead that person astray.
More than anything else, she loved and accepted me completely and unconditionally. I was not unique in that regard, but it still meant and means the world to me.
My condolences. My father in law passed away early this year at 84. Its a natural process but still hard to cope with.
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