I came across the following which I thought I would share. The entire post (which is about Hanukkah) is here:http://www.new-unity.org/blogmessages/2015/12/hanukkah-purity-love-and-the-clash-of-cultures6” class=”bbcode_url”>http://www.new-unity.org/blogmessages/2015/12/hanukkah-purity-love-and-the-clash-of-cultures6
Purity is clean and tidy. It means your ideas being unchallenged, your space being your own, your day to day life being determined by your own choices. To protect purity, we need very high and strong boundaries to keep the other out.
And love… People are messy. People don’t always think the way we do. They often have different habits and ways of living from our own. Loving people means lowering the boundaries we build against impurity.
Love changes us. We may look back and notice it was for the better, but it always changes us. And all those negative words about the opposite of purity come into play as we feel our high and strong boundaries being challenged.
We each have to choose between purity and love in our own lives and recognise with compassion that the choice is difficult for others too.
I think, on some level, this is the struggle that the LDS Church and its members are experiencing right now. We all believe in loving thy neighbor and we’re all committed to “keeping unspotted from the world.” The challenge is how to balance those two things. The above captures that struggle quite nicely, IMO.