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Keep an eye on her. I’ve been concerned ever since she started posting that there is something going on in her life that isn’t “right” or normal. Her descriptions of her husband, her children, her leaders, people at church . . . everyone is bad and wrong and extremist except her, and there’s no way I can say publicly what I would say privately in a face-to-face meeting. Her cumulative posts are indicative of some really messed up thinking – some serious psychological issues, and I worry about there being WAY more to her problems than specific church-related things we can address here.
Just a few comments that are illustrative, and I’m not going to quote at all from her very disturbing introduction:
Quote:I am OK with being nuts.
Quote:I think I have a gift of empathy to the point that it is sometimes a curse. OK lots of times a curse.
Quote:Both of my husbands as I mentioned had crazy good guardians or something. Yet reality is neither have been any where near as strong as me. Maybe they couldn’t handle what I have. I don’t mean to brag but they broke under much less.
Quote:I will take for example my current husband from whom I am currently separated from (sort of, it’s complicated- story for another time maybe) He is very far from a righteous man. [In her introduction, she mentions explicitly that she is totally helpless and can’t leave him.]
In her latest post, I asked her if she has gotten professional help. I am really concerned about her mental health – that there is absolutely nothing we can offer her that will make a difference given her resignation to her current life and her inability to take any control of or responsibility for it.
Should we see if Natasha P wants to weigh in? I don’t want to go back to Natasha too often (as I know she’s got a real job doing just this). Conversely, what about seeing if Adam Fisher will join us from time to time when we have someone with a mental health concern. It’s really hard to tell because she always just hints at things. I’m not sure what to make of it. She makes it seem like her adult sons are gangster drug dealers and her husband is a serial killer mastermind or something. I tried pushing her a bit, but then felt like I was driving too hard. I’m not sure what kind of situation would make me think I can’t leave a dangerous spouse… I’d sleep in a tent in a park if I had to. Honestly, it’s not one post – or even two. I have been concerned about her ever since her very disturbing introduction post, so I went back and read every comment she’s made here. The picture that emerges scares me more than just a bit. There’s a lot of really dark stuff mentioned in passing and hinted at when you read them all back-to-back. I liked SD’s and wayfarer’s responses to her in the latest post about her experience on Sunday. I knew that suggesting professional help was walking a fine line, and, if what she says about her personal situation is accurate, it might not be possible (still living with an abusive, controlling, “far from righteous” husband from whom she kind-of is separated who curses God, chastises her for questioning when he himself questions and thinks wearing a tank top is pornographic) – but I think she needs it desperately, again, if what she writes is accurate in any way.
Finally, her description of her marriage
also sheds some interesting light on how she presented her EQP’s and Bishop’s statements to her in her last post. I don’t want to say anything that criticizes them and questions their words, given the picture I get of her and her situation. It’s spectacularly unhealthy, so I can envision easily two men who care about her trying to help her see the error of her ways and telling her she has to make major changes in her life and start recognizing God’s attempts to help her. She’s pigeon-holed God into non-existence or non-caring, and I can see them trying to tell her that’s not so – and her rejecting it and saying they just don’t know what they’re talking about because they haven’t lived her life.I feel for her – deeply, but when I go back and read all of her comments back-to-back . . . I get a picture of a deeply disturbed woman living a wreck of a life and feeling like there is no way to get off the track she’s on – and blaming everyone else for it, while talking of how strong she is because she’s survived it better than anyone else. I really do think she needs professional, clinical help – badly.
Yeah. Just read a new thread from her about F&T meeting. She’s starting to repeat and skip like a broken record. Everyone is out to get her. Nobody understands and she can only hint at the real horrors … and now we find out she has been disfellowshipped.
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