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LaLaLove wrote:
Just a quick question .. might have to do with kids.
SS lesson was on keeping the Sabbath Holy.
As we were discussing activities “TO do” on Sunday instead of focusing on what “NOT to do” .. A woman mentioned “PH holders should interview their children” on Sundays and that it was very important- and everyone agreed. What does that mean? Only fathers should do a review with their children once a week, on Sunday, b/c they have the PH .. ? What about mothers? I have no idea what this comment was about. If anyone knows , Please tell me!
I have one on one interviews with each of my 4 kids each fast sunday. I offer my wife to join us if she wants, but she usually lets it be just “daddy time” – so I don’t look at it as a Priesthood requirement, but that it lets me as their dad connect with them and reaffirm with them that I do hold the Priesthood and can offer a blessing also if they wish. In other words, it is a parent thing, and the priesthood is a part of me being a parent. Not a Priesthood thing that mothers can not participate it.
That is my take.
Thank you Ray and Heber for the thoughts. I agree and hope to implement something like this. My oldest is only 4, so while I do spend time with her, it’s not much of an interview. She just wants to know I love her and care about her. I didn’t do this when my oldest were 4, I focused then on FHE and date nights, just cause they need to know I wanted to spend individual time with them and that they were loved. They liked FHE because of games and snacks and time together as a family. I didn’t start interviews until after they were baptized, although I do it with my youngest of 6 yrs old now just cause he sees the others getting time with dad. Just to clarify, I go out all the time with individual kids to run errands or to buy groceries or for some other reason. During that one-on-one time, we talk about pretty much anything – and much of it comes about because I initiate the conversation. By now, it’s old hat and expected. I just don’t organize any discussions formally as “interviews”. I don’t want to draw what I see as an artificial distinction between times when it’s OK to talk about certain things and times when it’s not. That’s just me and my personality, frankly. I see a distinct difference in purpose between “interviews” and “discussions” – and I personally choose to avoid interviewing my kids. However, as I said, I have no problem with others doing so if t works for them and their children. It’s the talking that’s important to me – as long as it’s open and non-threatening. I just know too many cases where the father used interviews as an excuse to not talk informally with his kids at other times – to act more as a Bishop than as a father.
LOL, when I heard “interviews” with fathers it took me back to my teen years. My father was a Bishop for several years, and has always been really active in Church callings his whole life. He had his own “office” always in our home (for business and church responsibilities). There was *
NOTHING* more feared and dreaded than an interview with my dad. Yeah, I smile about it now. Me and my siblings joke about it with each other. When we got into trouble, my dad would say “Valoel, i’d like to have a talk with you in my office…” I don’t know what it was, but he was a very sober authority figure. It was scary! lol. He was a great father growing up. Nothing dark or sinister. He never beat us, raised his voice, or anything like that. It was just the thought of him being upset or disappointed. And one of us kids sitting in that office while he laid it all out in a blunt and business-like manner. He even did/does that sometimes with the newer-married kids and their spouses. So the bro and sis in-laws have a laugh about it too. I think it is a super great idea to talk to your kids, to have open communications. But like others have described here, I do that in a very informal way. It’s probably a reaction to my “interview” experience growing up. I try to get one or two of my kids to go with me when I run errands, just so we can talk. It is also my “job” at home to get the kids in bed in the evening. That works out good because I usually try to spend a minute or two with each of the younger kids just to talk with them and spend a moment of one-on-one time — read them a story, talk, scratch their back, give them a big hug, etc.
My son told me the other day one of the best times he has had was when he helped me rip up carpet in the basement and we talked about things while doing it. I would never have thought that was a memorable time for him, but he loved it. I guess you can’t force great experiences, they just sort of happen.
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