Second Son Also Out

[Anonymous]

Hawkgrrrl, I have some limited experience with special needs children. There is definitely some tension between setting expectations so high that they will never succeed and so low that they have nothing to strive for. The sweet spot is in the middle where there are opportunities to strive, achieve and fail – always with gentle support.

As with special needs kids so too with the rest of us. Just adjust the middle depending on our ability/disability.

Supposing that BYUI was “too much” for your son, it can be perfectly acceptable to take that off the table and support him to be successful in a more familiar and supportive environment.

I like your setting of expectations with money and see them as baby steps towards independence and full financial accountability.

[Anonymous]

Is there any chance that your son suffers form some form of anxiety or adjustment disorder?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he thinks he has anxiety & depression. We’ve got him in with a therapist now. Second appt is Thursday. We’ll see how that goes. We also took them to NYC last week which was great, and we got tickets to see Dear Evan Hansen, which is about a teen who has anxiety & depression (and another teen who commits suicide). It’s a great show, very funny but also sad, but also hopeful. He definitely identified with the main character to some extent.

So we’ll see how things come out.

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