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My (ex-)wife asked me nearly this same question in lamentation the other day. I surprised myself with my candid and frank response, “Because men are bigger and stronger.” It was a rather dismal thought, but sadly true. When men become truly enlightened, they will transcend the size difference between them and women, and the pure equality of spirit among sisters and brothers will shine through.
amertune wrote:I preside in my home. My wife tells me to pick someone to say a prayer, and I pick someone to say a prayer.
Same in my house. I often think I preside because she lets me. If it bugged her, I wouldn’t…nor would I allow her unequal authority over me. Its a partnership, however we decide to make that partnership work.
I think it is just a Priesthood thing. In matter of the Priesthood, the man presides over the home because that is his duty. Does it mean he gets to tell his wife what housework and cooking to do and rule with an iron fist? No, because that has nothing to do with the Priesthood. I think it is more about making sure the matter of spirituality are taken care of, like blessings, prayers, teaching. But usually this isn’t the case. Women seem far more consistent with that, at least in my family and extended family. My husband would gladly abdicate all duties to me. Thank goodness the priesthood forces him to step up for some. I know that a lot of homes aren’t this way but at my house it’s a blessing. He’s not in any competition with me to be #1. He likes #2. This is a self-confidence issue, btw. But I cannot mow the lawn. Nope, according to him I’ll never do that right. observant wrote:Thank goodness the priesthood forces him to step up for some.
I think that is generally true, and something we are reminded in priesthood meetings often…step up, lengthen your stride, magnify your callings, etc etc etc.
What motivates women to do that? Is it just innate that things need to be done, so you do them without having to be told?
observant wrote:But I cannot mow the lawn. Nope, according to him I’ll never do that right.
I know that ONLY I can take out the garbage correctly.
🙂 cwald wrote:I know that ONLY I can take out the garbage correctly.
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My wife often tells me how good I am at remembering to take the garbage to the road on garbage day. She is just no good at it, she hates that. (Gently stroking Heber’s ego).“Yeah, I’m pretty good at taking the garbage out…here let me help you…DOH!
:wtf: She did it to me again!”I fall for it every time. Duh. Hey, at least if I’m taking out the garbage and calling on people for prayers, I don’t feel totally useless at home.
Heber13 wrote:cwald wrote:I know that ONLY I can take out the garbage correctly.
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My wife often tells me how good I am at remembering to take the garbage to the road on garbage day. She is just no good at it, she hates that. (Gently stroking Heber’s ego).“Yeah, I’m pretty good at taking the garbage out…here let me help you…DOH!
:wtf: She did it to me again!”Yeah, luckily I’ve been smart enough to pull the reverse trick on laundry.
That is not a joke. Now the new revelation that I’m waiting for is the one that priesthood holders are responsible for putting all of the laundry away. Now that would be a life changer. I’m afraid that ego stroking thing really does work. You guys should know that when you fall for it, it is really SEXY.
Check out these links, observant: http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/d/doing_the_dishes.asp http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/137213/women_find_men_who_do_housework_attractive.html?cat=41 observant wrote:You guys should know that when you fall for it, it is really SEXY.
We’re simple creatures. If it leads to benefits…I don’t think I’m stupid for continuing to fall for it.
🙂 Old-Timer wrote:Check out these links, observant:
http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/d/doing_the_dishes.asp http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/137213/women_find_men_who_do_housework_attractive.html?cat=41 Good article, I think it’s true. The guy doing the dishes with the sprinkler was classic.
Heber, you be smart!
cwald wrote:Kind of a side note: I made the comment this weekend to the 1st councilor on the BP, that we could solve a lot of our problems staffing the branch if the church would allow the females to exercise their priesthood. Nope – it did not go over very well at all.
Oh how I agree, we would solve a lot of problems: Missionary levels, Inactivity rates among men and women, what you mentioned about staffing problems. I wouldn’t call what females power a priesthood though, give us some respect, we are Female, not male, so therefore it would be Priestesshood not priesthood. Of course, with the current church lexion, that just doesn’t bold well does it for that change? Of course I also believe that God’s word for this power and our word for this power are two completely different things, and so he speaks our language when communicating with Fallen Patriarchal mortals, which just leads things into a conundrum. (hehehe, I think I may be digressing, then again probably not)
Sigh, well fasting again this Sunday for softened hearts for all for more revelation on women, Heavenly Mother in particular, lets see how that goes.
As for The Men Presides, my dear fiance and I have decided presiding, nurturing, protecting, providing, we will do that in our own way. I though am still in the middle of shedding what I have been taught to believe. It’s a hard long process.
observant wrote:My husband would gladly abdicate all duties to me. Thank goodness the priesthood forces him to step up for some.
Brown wrote:I think it is more about making sure the matter of spirituality are taken care of, like blessings, prayers, teaching. But usually this isn’t the case. Women seem far more consistent with that, at least in my family and extended family.
DW wants me to support her in spiritual matters/ step up to the preside role. What she really means is to schedule the religious observance calendar/clock. This means to gather everyone for family prayer or scripture study, call on individuals, schedule and preside over (make assignments for) FHE, suggest priesthood blessings etc. I have set revolving notices on my smart phone for most of these duties and my wife seems fairly pleased.
I do find it a little ironic though that, according to this definition, it is now the smart phone that presides in our home.
😆 No, the smart phone is the tool that your wife uses to shadow-preside. 
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