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Thoreau wrote:
Are you the RS president or a counselor? If you’re the president then things are not being done properly. If you’re a counselor then the RS president is the one not keeping you in the loop, not the bishopric.
I’m an counselor. And they both are not communicating with me. It was the job of the RSP to convey messages that were never conveyed. It was the job of the bishop to accept our recommendations for teachers. But according to church policy he should take our recommendations and extend the callings but does have the final say.
My problem is that I’m just mad at everyone right now. I’m mad at the RSP for not communicating (and other stuff), I’m mad at the Bishop for not asking for our recommendations (and other stuff) and I’m mad that church policy means that the Bishop, a person who has never in his whole time as bishop (and probably ever) has ever set foot in a Relief Society meeting has the power to give and take away people from our organization. The person with all the power has no personal investment.
I’m just mad.
Maybe it is a a grieving process, for a couple of years I denied that I have any problems with the church that I can’t solve. I told myself that I could work it out, put on a happy face and even make the church a better place.
I can’t do that, now I’m just mad.
And I’m pretty sure that the bishop’s response to being mad will be to release me.
Rant away. It often helps to get it out of the system. I would caution you that you don’t take things personally, especially the interaction between you and the bishopric. Remember the bishop has to consider the whole ward, not just the RS. The RS presidency might feel strongly about a certain person and the primary and YW might feel just as strong about the same person. Or maybe the bishop is privy to information the auxiliary leaders don’t have and the person is not a good fit for the calling for whatever reason. Thoreau’s advice is excellent. I’ve been in situations where it was impossible to give everyone the people they requested, and I’ve seen auxiliary presidents not communicate with their counselors about changes. Bishops often get flack for things that are out of their control. When the organization functions like it’s supposed to function, it can be great; when it doesn’t, it can be more than just frustrating; usually, in most wards, it functions somewhere between great and awful.
Otoh, if you are mad at everyone, a break is not a bad thing. Just realize, as you seem to understand, that your general anger is affecting your objectivity and, in some cases, creating issues that wouldn’t be issues without the broad-based anger. So, take a literal deep breath and find a way to decompress.
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