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Hello everyone, here’s my intro! I have been reading her for a week or two and it seems like a very supportive and helpful place.
I was born and raised in the LDS church in a small town in Northern CA. My Mom’s family were members from the beginning of the church and my Dad was a nonmember who was baptized a few years after the marriage. I went to BYU and later married a nonmember. We divorced after 30 years of marriage. We have two sons. My sons were baptized in their teens, but were not active for very long.
I have not been active in the church for most of my adult life for a variety of reasons. I have always thought of myself as a Mormon but not an orthodox believer.
I am retired now and have been feeling a need or desire to reconnect with my people.
Welcome HN, Your story sounds familiar. I hope we can help. The most interesting part of your post is the following: Harriet Naomi wrote:I have great memories of growing up in the church
but was not able to make it work for me in the past.
What was it that you couldn’t make it work for you?My Wife & I came back into activity after we retired. I found this period of our life to be reflective & wanted to settle the issues that made my
life complicated. We wanted to find peace in our lives or move into something else. My only advice at this time is to take it slow. Make changes
on your own terms. I wish you peace on your journey. Keep coming back.
I had the same question as Minyan Man — welcome to the site! Thanks for the welcome. :wave: Lots of reasons church did not work for me. Mostly it was due to working lots of weekends, nonmember husband was not religious and preferred for me to spend the weekends I had off with him and the family. I also lived in the same ward with my parents and my Mom was uncomfortably intrusive and controlling especially about church stuff which made it difficult for me to participate.
I was aware of historical issues quite early on since my family history was entwined with church history. My great great grandfather was a great journal keeper!
I felt there was something wrong with me for quite a long time because I never really had that burning testimony so many people talk about.
I still don’t, but I’m OK with that now. I’ve mellowed out and am pretty agnostic about testimony and truth claims of the church.
I do find church history and LDS issues interesting and like to be around LDS folks.
Thanks for the intro. Harriet Naomi wrote:I also lived in the same ward with my parents…
I bet that makes it tough. Maybe this is more related to belonging to the same ward your whole life than being in the same ward as your parents but I imagine that it’s a struggle, many ward members still viewing you as that kid they always knew.
Welcome to the forums. Ask away, we’re here to listen and offer our individual perspectives. I recognize how hard it can be going back to church after being away for a long time. Welcome. As DJ said in another thread, we all are helpers and helpees. We don’t pretend to have “the one true answers”, and we don’t agree unanimously about much, but we support those who are trying to find and/or live their own faith within the general framework of the LDS Church.
Welcome! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think when we see the church for what it is, we can find things that enhance our lives and fill our lives with opportunities for peace.
I think the key is loving others as they are.
I am guessing you have experiences and unique talents to go to church and bless others who need your story and example.
Glad you joined the forum. I look forward to learning more from your posts.
Thanks so much for the welcoming comments. I truly appreciate it. I’m not really looking for answers at this time of my life, just a community to belong to and contribute to in some small way.
I guess reaching out here is the first step.
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