- This topic is empty.
-
Posts
-
Best to you, Ray. Sending thoughts and love out to you and your family. Outofstep wrote:When the body is letting go it “knows” what it needs. If the body does not need the nutrition, it can cause swelling in tissues and discomfort to the person. As a hospice nurse, I have watched families plead and beg their loved one to continue to eat. They do this out of love, not knowing that this could actually cause more discomfort. Don’t withhold anything, just offer and let it end at that. If he wants cake instead of his meds…..then let him have it….he has earned the right to do that
Very good advice! You and yours are in my prayers. Please let your father know that some (I am sure I am not the only one) have used the story of his life as an example of a great man and the Savior’s teachings. My whole family knows your father’s life story and his noble endeavors!
Thank you, everyone. I arrived at my brother’s house a couple of hours ago and am checking in before I go to sleep. I will see my parents tomorrow. Outofstep, my wife is a CNA. We understand the issues, but I really appreciate your input. It is what I am and have been telling the family members out here.
My father asked me to give him a blessing releasing him from this life. He is a shell of the man I have known all my life, and, in his lucid times, he wants to die. In the blessing, among other things, he was told that he was released from the
“obligations of this life”and that it was fine for him to let go. Afterward, as I thought about the difference between what he requested and what he got, I was struck by it – and I will be thinking about it for some time, I’m sure. There are multiple implications of that wording difference, and it meant a lot to me to realize that after the fact. One more thing was extremely personal and powerful, but I want to share it here – although I have no intention right now of writing about it on my personal blog. It hit me hard as I was voicing the blessing that, under the traditional system, as the oldest son, I would have been the new patriarch of his family when he dies. Honestly, I had not thought about it in those terms prior to the blessing, and I had absolutely no intention of mentioning it in the blessing, but I felt compelled to tell my dad that he was being released from his obligations by the person who would pick up those obligations once he died.
I will be thinking about that for some time, as well.
Very profound Ray! Ray, you are one of my favorites as I lurk in the shadows on this site. May God truly be with you and your family. Ray, Sincere condolences. Loosing loved ones is always hard, no matter what the circumstance.
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.