URGENT – Need Advice

[Anonymous]

I agree that there is “danger” in talking openly about doubts with Bishops, but I also believe that there can be GREAT benefit in doing so. It all depends on the individual Bishop – which makes it a bit of a crap shoot for us in giving advice and leaves the ball squarely in your court, BofC, to decide – since you are the only one here who knows your Bishop in any way, to any degree.

All we can do is offer generic advice. How good that advice is in your own, personal, individual situation is something we simply can’t assess beforehand.

Whatever your decision, I hope it works – and I’m REALLY glad you are owning it upfront. Therefore, whatever you do, I support it 100%.

[Anonymous]

Old-Timer wrote:

I also believe that there can be GREAT benefit in doing so. It all depends on the individual Bishop – which makes it a bit of a crap shoot for us in giving advice and leaves the ball squarely in your court, BofC

I agree, discussing it with any other person (online, bishop, wife) is a crapshoot … hence, it is a personal journey and decision, but you should realize the risks and think through it and take it slow prior to deciding anything.

[Anonymous]

Well I got a reprieve (blessing, divine intervention, alignment of the stars, good karma, dumb luck) last night. The bishop did not get my request to meet from the ES. By the time I figured I this out, I decided that it could wait. We were going to meet tonight, but after a good nights sleep, I decided to delay any meeting with him for now at least.

I’m still trying to work things out in my own mind first. Some of the comments yesterday brought my attention to this. After sleeping on it, I decided that I don’t need to rush into anything and schedule a meeting with the Bishop.

And since there are no immediate plans to go to the temple right now, opening the can of worms can be put on hold.

BOC

[Anonymous]

Hi,

I haven’t read all the responses. I just have this thought to share. I was barely 19 when I went to the temple for the first time. I had only been a member for one year. I don’t think I knew if I was worthy in every way to enter the temple. I had kept the commandments and could answer all the other questions but the last one is so subjective. I have found out this. As I have attended the temple through the years it has helped me grow and learn. We become changed as we attend the temple just like the rest of the gospel.

Another thought is that we need to have compassion for ourselves just as we need to for others. Sometimes seeing yourself with understanding and patience can soften your own heart towards yourself. We can think of how forgiving the Savior was in the stories of the New Testament, such as the adulteress and tax collector. If He showed such compassion for them certainly He would do the same for us and likewise can we for one another and ourselves. I hope this helps and wish you the best. It’s wonderful that your wife wants to attend the temple with you, let her love lift you up.

Peace

[Anonymous]

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Another thought is that we need to have compassion for ourselves just as we need to for others.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

As a follow up: Instead of going to the temple, I decided to just do family history work at home. Even though much of my genealogy is done, I had not been able to find some of those nagging answers like: “How did this family join the Church, and when did it occur, and by whom?

These are some interesting questions that I wanted answered. The great thing was is that I was able to find out such answers and my testimony grew for family history work. Maybe if I get the spirit of family history work, then later I will have an increased desire to go to the temple.

[Anonymous]

jamison wrote:

The great thing was is that I was able to find out such answers and my testimony grew for family history work.

Very cool, jamison. There are cool things that come from binding generations together.

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