What bothers you is a reflection on you?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it depends on the relationship between the people sharing stories or taking feedback.

People I know well and have respect for, even if they sound like they are bragging, I know them well enough to know they are humble and kind and don’t do it often, and it doesn’t seem like pride to me. Others I don’t know that well don’t have that trust from me. Same goes for if they are telling me something, and I’m more easily offended by people I don’t trust.

[Anonymous]

Heber13 wrote:

Sometimes it depends on the relationship between the people sharing stories or taking feedback.

People I know well and have respect for, even if they sound like they are bragging, I know them well enough to know they are humble and kind and don’t do it often, and it doesn’t seem like pride to me. Others I don’t know that well don’t have that trust from me. Same goes for if they are telling me something, and I’m more easily offended by people I don’t trust.

Maybe it depends if we feel threatened for a current, legitimate reason, or not.

That would take some awareness both externally & internally.

I realize I get really annoyed by people who remind me of certain peoples’ ways, which negatively influenced me as a child.

Also, when I’m actively trying to forget my weaknesses, & somebody reminds me of them (in various ways) – it’s troubling (but sometimes needed).

When I see someone calling others names or putting another down personally (instead of what they say or actions) – &/or overreacting – I wonder what their problem is.

[Anonymous]

Good points, Featherina. A lot of what we hear is filtered through our internal thoughts and feelings, which is why what bothers us is a reflection of us.

If someone tells me I have green hair, it doesn’t bother me, because it seems silly to me. But the things that strike close to home are the things I’m most sensitive about.

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