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Hi everyone, I feel as if I know you, but you don’t know me. I’ve admired you for a very long time. Being on this faith journey road for nearly 6 yrs. It was Staylds.com that I stumbled on that got me to feel halfway normal. Of course it was the stumbling onto the website josephsmithswives.com that made me jerk out of my LDS mindset that I’ve lived for nearly all my life. It didn’t all come crashing down at first, at first I just took a step back and thought hmm, Joseph had other wives and some were
thatyoung and he married other men’s wive’s? The only thing I’d ever read about him practicing polygamy was in Gerald Lund’s books “The Work and the Glory Series” . It mentioned that Joseph had been visited by an angel with a drawn sword to live polygamy. But didn’t show where he did live it before he was killed. Anyway, this information led me to the internet in search of Mormon history, which beforehand had not been of interest to me. But now it was all I could think about and spent a few years searching and yes, usually my only resources were the anti sights, but Staylds.com was the light or beacon to me, everything will be alright, just breath. And stay in the church. Because at that time only my husband knew of my situation. I’d call him during the day at work and ask “did you know about this?” He’d get so frustrated with me and show me where in the bible that we were the only church that actually lives what is taught in the bible. What could I say to that? Now my husband has opened his eyes to the disturbing things of the church and is somewhat on board but we both stay active somewhat and try to live the mormon life for our children that are still active. We have 5 children, 2 (oldest) that are inactive (probably by own doing, pushed the church on them), 3 that are pretty active, return missionary son, missionary aged son that doesn’t choose to serve at this time. And a 15 yr. old that is involved in Young Men’s etc.
The Bishop is aware of my disbelief and the concerns that I laid out to him were MMM & blood atonement, Joseph Smith’s particular polygamy/polyandry. Just those few, but biggy’s to me anyhow.
Things that have helped me are the Mormonstories, Mormonmatters and even the Mormon Expressions podcasts. I attended my first Mormonstories conference this past May, I believe. And stood within feet of John Dehlin and was afraid to say “hi”, I’m shy that way. I even attended the Sunstone Symposium for the first time and attended the presentation that John Dehlin gave with one of my heros Carol Lynn Pearson. I came in late and sat at the back where I sat on the floor near Joanna Brooks and was shy to say something to her too, grrr.
Anyway back to why it took me so long to finally post, I got brave and became a member of the NOM board (under a different avatar) because I was a lttle too angry to be on Staylds, atleast I felt that way. And then believe it or not got the nerve to join the MD&D board (same avatar as here) only because they wouldn’t allow me to be an observer anymore without registering. And the rest is history. I got brave and posted topics and it got me into some craziness like the latest one that I started with Dr. William Bradshaw which is centered this podcast,
http://mormonstories.org/category/homosexuality/ .So finally, after many years, I feel I’m ready to join Staylds and be among you all, on my never ending faith journey!
Edit: BIC, TR, Mormon Roots
Thanks for the introduction Tacenda. We always know there are many people that lurk and read, and it is good to meet you and hear your story. A couple things struck me:
Tacenda wrote:Now my husband has opened his eyes to the disturbing things of the church and is somewhat on board but we both stay active somewhat and try to live the mormon life for our children that are still active.
I think it is interesting to see how we can’t push our ideas on our spouses…but sometimes over time views do change. So going slow and being patient with others is a compassionate approach. But it must be nice for you both to have come to see things similarly together so you can share things. It is harder when the other spouse isn’t open and you have to hide feelings or avoid topics. Your marriage sounds healthy and loving.
Tacenda wrote:I got brave and became a been a member of the NOM board (under a different avatar) because I was a lttle too angry to be on Staylds, atleast I felt that way. And then believe it or not got the nerve to join the MD&D board (same avatar as here) only because they wouldn’t allow me to be an observer anymore without registering. And the rest is history.
I think this is a good example of how different sites fill different needs for people from time to time.
That is why we stay true to our mission, realizing it is not for everyone, but hopefully it is valuable to some at certain points in their lives.
I look forward to learning more from your posts. You sound like you have great ideas…no need to be too shy, we won’t bite! (except maybe SilentDawning…he gets hungry sometimes!
Tacenda wrote:Anyway back to why it took me so long to finally post, I got brave and became a been a member of the NOM board (under a different avatar) because I was a lttle too angry to be on Staylds, atleast I felt that way. And then believe it or not got the nerve to join the MD&D board (same avatar as here) only because they wouldn’t allow me to be an observer anymore without registering. And the rest is history. I got brave and posted topics and it got me into some craziness like the latest one that I started…
Tacenda, welcome — so glad you’re here.I must be crazy, but every once in a while, I like to go into the mind of the enemy to see what’s there. And it’s really scary at MD&D. Jeeze. We don’t belong there…
I look forward to hearing your stories and views.
Wayfarer, now yer just daring me to venture there…aren’t you? Send me a PM with what u think is scary so I know if I should check it out or not…I’m terrible once my curiosity is peaked.
Heber13 wrote:Wayfarer, now yer just daring me to venture there…aren’t you?
Send me a PM with what u think is scary so I know if I should check it out or not…I’m terrible once my curiosity is peaked.
just…say…no. it isn’t worth it.Welcome. I really hope this is the place – pun intended. wayfarer wrote:just…say…no. it isn’t worth it.
I have no reason not to trust you. I say no. Thanks.
:thumbup: Ahhh. A familar face. Welcome, and I can ABSOLUTELY promise you, you will be treated with more respect and understanding here than you are getting over at MAD. Opinions, yes OPINIONS, are valid here, as long as you follow the mission of the board which is to try to find positive ways to navigate relationship with the LDS church.
I have made several mistakes as I’ve navigated my faith crisis, but two of the biggest have been participating on the LDS.net and the MAD boards. BIG mistakes.
cwald wrote:Ahhh. A familar face. Welcome, and I can ABSOLUTELY promise you, you will be treated with more respect and understanding here than you are getting over at MAD.
Opinions, yes OPINIONS, are valid here, as long as you follow the mission of the board which is to try to find positive ways to navigate relationship with the LDS church.
I have made several mistakes as I’ve navigated my faith crisis, but two of the biggest have been participating on the LDS.net and the MAD boards. BIG mistakes.
A-frigging-MEN.Just beware of Ray… He is our resident true believer. 
:clap: :clap: 😆 :clap: 😆 :clap: Quote:Beware of Ray.
I have to admit, I don’t hear that often.
Welcome Tacenda! It sounds like this will be a good place for you. I have found a lot of comfort here with the concerns I have with church history and doctrine. There are a lot of great people with a great outlook that I find very uplifting. I look forward to learning from you! Welcome to the site. I think we’ve all participated in a variety of places, and we do find our niche. Glad you are here. I am also a resident true believer. Welcome to the site. Ilovechrist77 wrote:I am also a resident true believer. Welcome to the site.
amen!
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