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Just wondering if anyone else was forgotten on Father’s Day. Not my wife, not my daughter — neither did anything special or wished me a happy Father’s Day. It’s saddening really. I made big sacrifices to keep this family together and to provide a stable home life for my children, and my wife. Yet they forget to do anything special on this day.
Here is an interesting article on differences between mothers and fathers day spending, and how often people forget to acknowledge Dad on father’s day. It’s Canadian, but Canada is similar in many ways to America (and very different in other ways). SilentDawning wrote:
Just wondering if anyone else was forgotten on Father’s Day. Not my wife, not my daughter — neither did anything special or wished me a happy Father’s Day.It’s saddening really. I made big sacrifices to keep this family together and to provide a stable home life for my children, and my wife. Yet they forget to do anything special on this day.
Last Thursday was our 50th wedding anniversary. None of our children remembered. That was fine with us. My wife & I went to our favorite
restaurant, sat outside, the weather was great & talked about out life for the past 50 years. Both of us are fairly low keyed & would prefer it
that way.
Father’s day the kids called. No cards or presents. I understand that they have lives of their own now. Granddaughter had surgery the
other day. They have bills to pay, Jobs to keep, Homes to fix, etc. Life goes its merry way.
Yet I get censured if I ever forget anyone else’s b-day, special day etcetera. As Scar said in the Lion King “Life’s not fair”. Unfortunately it comes with the territory. Mother’s Day does get more attention than Father’s Day but I don’t really want to turn it into a contest. Double-standards definitely exist and life is inherently unfair. I’m reminded of a quote, “People aren’t out to get you, they’re just out for themselves.”
Feeling appreciated is a human need, we could all use a little more of it. If we want to be appreciated more that means everyone will have to do a little more appreciating so there’s more of it to go around.
For father’s day I was fortunate to have a wonderful spouse who set up a video chat with all of the kids and even coordinated a sort of group gift. It was better than what I did for mother’s day and I feel bad about that. However, I have been left out before. I’m not a big birthday person but I have had only my wife acknowledge my birthday in the past. It’s easy to get down when that happens.
Life is unfair. (If you use the definition of justice as being fairness and you believe the atonement of Jesus Christ will bring justice, all will be fair in the next life.)
My family has been very busy lately and I feel like I have been burning the candle at both ends. DW has been recovering from surgery so I have been picking up additional duties that are not part of my usual.
DW brought me a bowl of mixed fruit that she said needed to be eaten so that it wouldn’t go bad. she put some whipped cream on the top and said happy father’s day. I don’t share this as a complaint. I hate the sense of expectation that comes from holidays. If this more low-key celebration is part of a new trend for us then I can get on board.
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