The issue is essentially over in our family. However, I did bring it up with the Bishop when he called me about an unrelated, business matter we have in common. I told him what happened, and that I’d pretty much dealt with it as far as one of the girls went, that apologies had been executed by everyone affected. I did suggest that some kind of “organizational action” should be taken to educate leaders about bullying and to train the girls better. He said he thought that teaching gospel principles that bear on the subject is the best way to handle it. He’s considering a youth fireside on it, as well as a private meeting with the YW leaders to discuss the issue in general. He was sensitive to my concern about how the girl I visited was genuinely torn up about what she did, and that my own daughter is over it and would rather not have a public horse-beating over it. I decided I would just leave it at this point — He will handle it as he sees fit.
And Heber is right, I still have every right as a parent to intervene on behalf of my daughter in specific situations as I see fit. Naturally, I consider the whole context when making situations like that.