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Reflexzero wrote:
One additional comment for this one.There was an instance where a brother would not drive an older single sister home after a stake activity because he was worried about either somehow violating the law of chastity, or being thought to have done so in the four block car ride. This is not anecdotal, as it was a family member of mine who was the sister left behind. Obviously I found the story ridiculous in application of the spirit of the law, but you hear stories of a man refusing to ride elevators with a woman in the COB. Are we that scared of each other? I understand the need to protect people from being taken advantage of, but do we really feel that if we are alone for a minute it is going to result in some sexual escapade?
My dad relayed to me the other day something similar last month.
BACKGROUND: My parents have 1 car, and my mom had taken it to go visit family in other states. My dad lives in a small ward/large branch divided among 3 cities about 20 minutes or so from the church building. He is also the Ward Mission Leader.
EVENT:
He mentioned that he thought his bishop would give him grief for getting a ride to Ward Correlation (and church meetings) from our single R.S. President about his age because of the “appearance of evil”. This is in one of the Rust Belt states, far into the “mission field”. I was surprised, and then pointed out that this was a prime example of the R.S. sister “sustaining” the missionary efforts of the branch by giving him a ride.
This is more of a legal/PR issue than a spiritual one. It’s why men aren’t allowed to teach in primary without a “supervisor”, missionaries are not allowed to hold babies/children, aren’t allowed to enter a woman’s home without another male present, etc. If the woman accused the man of sexual assault, it’ll turn into a HUGE legal battle, especially now when those accused of sexual assault are “presumed guilty until proven innocent”; even IF they are proven 100% innocent, it’ll still stain the individual and the Church for a long time to come. There’s also the psychological phenomina, where we tend to “fall in love” with what’s most fimiliar. The more time we spend alone with some, the more we get to know them, the more likely we are to develop sexual attraction for them. Also, while monogomy is great for establishing a solid foundation to raise children, infedelity for both men and women greatly diversifies the genetic “fitness” of their offspring (provided that their partners don’t find out about it).
We see this prevelent in certain species of birds (Lovebirds, Eurasian Blue), who we praise for having monogomous “mates for life”As much as possible, it’s best not to risk evil, or even the appearance of evil. Bad things can happen. False accusations can be made.
I have to say that I fear women will find me so unattractive that they will not be able to control themselves between the floors on an elevator. I am just looking out for them! And if you think I am serious – come on. My looks are even worse than my sense of humor. I think my avatar looks better than I do. Just ask Amateurparent!
I will verify that LookingHard is so handsome that serving staff at the restaurant were sliding him their phone numbers along with the check. The one with the lipstick and “call me” seemed a little forward. I called the number the next day and it was a plastic surgeon’s office! You are making me blush
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[img]https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8213/8292015527_511ac5e455_b.jpg [/img] Bear wrote:
Well… The title says it all.in a world where having sex is something you can do “for fun” and with anyone you like ( if you’re lucky;) – why does the church teach that we should live by the law of chastity?
Go ahead and give me your thoughts and comments:)
Pregnancy.
STDs.
Physicality over social bonding…
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