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SD – Great Advice. Thank you also for reminding us of the flip side of divorce or such. I have a friend who is in a painful divorce right now. Quote:
Keeping the marriage together is important. My wife just got a job at a family law firm and a divorce can really decimate your financial situation and freedom — alimony, dividing assets, two sets of living expenses etcetera. I would do everything possible to keep the marriage on an even keel as you have done, even if that means making a sacrifice and taking the lead on spiritual things on a semi-regular basis — on a schedule you can tolerate.:clap: SilentDawning wrote:I’d also consider meeting her needs for commitment and initiative some gospel oriented habits in your family — like prayer, and scripture reading. The good part about initiating them is you can pick readings that are not disturbing to you in any way. In fact, you can pick ones you find uplifting and discuss those together without broaching any nasty church topics that can cause disharmony.
Keeping the marriage together is important. My wife just got a job at a family law firm and a divorce can really decimate your financial situation and freedom — alimony, dividing assets, two sets of living expenses etcetera. I would do everything possible to keep the marriage on an even keel as you have done, even if that means making a sacrifice and taking the lead on spiritual things on a semi-regular basis — on a schedule you can tolerate.
Great advice SD. Thanks!
By the way, my DW was much better yesterday. We talked a little and I think she misunderstood when I started to tell her my concerns. She thought I was wanting to leave the church right then. Now that we’ve cleared that up, I think we may be able to have some more discussion without assuming the worst (on both sides).
🙂 I just don’t talk about the church anymore. It’s so much simpler. Of course, if my wife expected gospel leadership, I would probably do it. but that is one of the bones of contention in my family — for years I wanted family prayer, family home evening, and my wife wouldn’t do it. Or if she would do it, she would sit there tolerating the lesson, and then bolt, leaving me alone with the kids during the game. So, I stopped initiating it, and have learned to only discuss the church when they come to me with stories about what happened at church that day,
There is so little good that comes of expressing my opinions about the church that it’s best for me to invest in conversation that makes our relationship better — feed those topics and starve the ones that hurt the relationship.
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