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LookingHard wrote:
Interesting read going to a different extremehttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-this-mom-wont-teach-her-daughters-to-dress-modestly_us_59395838e4b0c5a35c9cd890?ncid=edlinkushpmg00000313 ” class=”bbcode_url”> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-this-mom-wont-teach-her-daughters-to-dress-modestly_us_59395838e4b0c5a35c9cd890?ncid=edlinkushpmg00000313
I’m not so sure that it is an extreme per se. she says in the article that she talks to her children about whether or not they will be able to do the activity in the clothing they are wearing also to be aware that some people may notice and comment on your clothing and how you might feel and respond to that.
In principle, I feel that dress standards should be about respecting yourself and respecting others. How these sometimes competing directives balance can be tricky but as long as we are trying it should work out alright.
Roy wrote:
In principle, I feel that dress standards should be about respecting yourself and respecting others. How these sometimes competing directives balance can be tricky but as long as we are trying it should work out alright.
I wish that the principle of “respect” was more emphasized in the Church. I think too often there are people who act in a certain way, not because it is “who they are”, but to shock, and get a reaction, so they can put on the “victim panties” and take offense at everyone who was offended. But I think there is really a virtue in showing courtesy towards others. It’s important to not “take offense” because of what other people do, but we can’t hold others to the same standards. People take offense; sometimes they’ll go out of their way to take offense. But we should still do our best to help them feel comfortable and at peace.
[Admin Note]: “Victim panties” is a sexist term. I am leaving it in place simply to point out how subtle and pervasive sexism is in our fallen world. Let’s all try to be aware of these things and weed them from our vocabulary. Two thoughts: 1) I believe that there is a portion of dressing modesty that is just about fitting in. IOW – DW feels that she must shave her legs to go swimming and must wear a skirt to go to church. These are not exactly rules and have NOTHING to do with modesty but everything to do with fitting in. I believe that part of dressing according to “modest” cultural standards is partly just about fitting in.
dande48 wrote:
I wish that the principle of “respect” was more emphasized in the Church. I think too often there are people who act in a certain way, not because it is “who they are”, but to shock, and get a reaction,
2) I understand that. The people that wear garments on the outside of their clothing at GC are certainly doing so to shock and get a reaction. However if we live to respect ourselves and respect others then we can let that be our guide in how we respond to them. Similar to treating others as we want to be treated even if they do not do the same for us.
Reuben wrote:
Never, ever, ever talking about the seriousness without emphasizing the power of repentance would be a good start.
Amen. My daughter might still be active in the Church had someone along the way bothered to do this. I don’t think that emphasizing the power of repentance in any way encourages people to think, “It doesn’t matter what I do as long as I repent afterwards.” But when the focus is on the negative effects of sin and the Atonement is barely alluded to, it can destroy lives.
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